Dealing with the Diagnosis

When my first two sons were three and one years old my husband and I received the diagnosis that my oldest son had autism. As parents we were initially crushed. We went through a period of disbelief and were depressed. I did not understand how this could happen to “my son”.

We had another son two years later. We were so scared when he was born that he also had autism. When he continued to progress without signs of the disorder we were ecstatic.

A few years later my husband and I decided to try for a girl (although we would be happy with a healthy baby of any sex) and when I was just a few weeks pregnant I received the shock of my life when I was informed that I was carrying twins. Seven months later (yes they were preemies) two beautiful boys were born. Yes, four boys!!! When the twins were two years old we were advised that they had autism as well. Again my husband and I were in disbelief, depressed and could not understand how three of our children had autism.

Most parents of children with autism go through similar emotions when they first receive the diagnosis. We were fortunate that when we received the diagnosis for the twins we already were familiar with this disorder and knew where to turn and what treatments to begin. All of our sons went to various therapies and when they were three began school.

When dealing with the diagnosis it was hard to find support. Our families did support us, but they did not understand autism so they really could not provide us with advice throughout our journey. The greatest form of support we have received is from parents of other children with autism. It is comforting to speak to someone that understands the disorder and how it impacts everyday life. The funny thing I have learned talking to parents is how different the disorder is for every child. Yes, there are some commonalities, but overall I believe that the disorder manifests itself so differently in each child. I do not think there is anything that is “typical” when speaking about autism.

If your child has received this diagnosis my best advice to you is talk to people: your family, your friends, and others who have children with autism. I have seen many parents try to deal with this diagnosis in isolation. You should not try to embark on, or continue, this journey yourself.

We will be writing more about autism on this blog. If you have any questions about autism please do not hesitate to contact us.

They confronted me in the day of my disaster, but the LORD was my support (2 Samuel 22:19).